Obstacles of life…..

We often get upset or temp to complain a lots whenever we face some difficulties in our life…

some might even put the blame to the god ,why the god treat them unfair ? why they can’t have a smooth sailing life ? why there are so so many obstacles in their life ? perhaps i am part of them too

found an good article online lately ….talking about the obstacles of life…

personally, I think it’s a good one to share …

“While we all pray for each other that one should not come across any obstacle in life, I have a different view after read the following.
We must come across obstacles and need to pray for each other to overcome obstacles (with some pain) and progress.
One night recently my daughter, Elizabeth, was showing me an aquarium full of tadpoles. She had purchased a whole bag full of them for her children to watch grow from tadpoles into frogs. It was fun watching all of those little wiggly creatures swimming around in the aquarium! It brought back many fond memories of my own childhood, playing with "critters" down at my grandparent's house.
I noticed that there was a big rock in the aquarium. When I asked her why she put a rock right in the middle of the tadpoles' environment, Elizabeth told me an interesting story. I can hardly believe that I have lived almost seventy years without having heard it. It is so good and "life-essence saturated."
Elizabeth said that she was instructed by the Pet Store Salesman to be sure to "put a big rock right in the middle of the aquarium." He
explained that "the tadpoles must have this obstacle to give them the incentive to climb up and thus split their little wiggly tails so that
their legs can begin to develop. If they have no rock or obstacle to climb up on, they will never turn into frogs. They cannot learn how to hop by just swimming around in water. They must have something causing resistance to give them the incentive to leap forward.
The man went on to tell her that last year a school teacher came back to the store and complained because none of her tadpoles had ever turned into frogs. She had put all of them in an aquarium and let them swim around but they never became frogs. He asked her if she had put a big obstacle, like a rock, in the middle of the aquarium. She said that she had not. She did not know that a tadpole will remain a tadpole unless it faces some obstacle or barrier that forces it to grow. Neither did I, but it makes perfect sense.
So, my daughter was excited to show me all of the tadpoles swimming around the rock. In time, they will begin to try to climb up it and eventually they will make the transformation into a more fully mature creature.
Well, I was amazed and delighted to hear that story. It helped me better to see, once again, why life presents obstacles and barriers in
front of us. The barriers are not there to hinder us, but they are there to cause us to grow. It is not so much what the object is in
front of each one of us that matters as much as it is our attitude towards it. If we realize that the obstacle we are facing is really a
gift that has come our way to help us grow and mature, we will be much more likely to face it in a positive manner.
Since I watched those tadpoles the other night and saw the big rock in their aquarium, I have begun to see the obstacles I face in a
different way. Instead of being rocks in my path, those obstacles have become stepping stones to help me leap forward in whatever
situation I find myself...
I know that those little tadpoles have no idea what is going on. They just are not that smart. The truth of the matter is, neither are we?
Most of us have no idea what all is going on in our lives either. We don't understand that the barriers and obstacles, challenges, difficulties and hard times that come our way each day are actually there for a purpose. There is no way we will have the incentive to
grow, or to become better, or to strive harder, if everything in life is just a simple situation. I know the harder I work at anything, the more profitable it is for me, not only financially, but personally, in my own heart and character as well.
So, the next time you see a frog hopping around, smile at him and thank him for the lesson, remembering the struggle he has gone through to get where he is. Perhaps out in the wild somewhere, he faced a difficult rock or barrier in his life, but rather than swimming away from it, he just crawled up on it and began to develop his personal strength until he eventually matured to become the frog that you see hopping around.
Moral of the Story:“Remember... Obstacles are there to help you... “

everything happen with a reason , so don’t get upset or Pease off whenever you encouter any obstacle in your life…just try your very best to overcome it , as these obstacles help to make you better person~

Cheers …..

How to Say “NO”

I always have a problem to say “No” ,simply because I don’t like to disappoint  someone.

Come across an article today with a title of ..<Do you have trouble saying no?>

here are the points that mention in the article. hope that it will help you to say NO…in future …

• When the request makes you uneasy. Your gut will usually tell you when you should say no, and you should train yourself to listen to your instincts. Does this feel like a situation where you said yes before and wish you’d declined? Have you recently said to yourself, “My plate is full”?
• When you don’t think you’ll be able to do a good job. If you think you wouldn't be able to do a good job or deliver on time, saying yes won’t result in any good -- either for you or for the person who asked.
• When you are trying to get away from a certain kind of work. Saying yes to one type of work generally leads to more of that type of work, as long as you do a good job. So if you’re trying to move in a new direction, at some point, you will have to start saying no to the kind of work you’re trying to leave behind. 
• Take time to decide, but not too much time. Mastering "no" requires that you consider a request carefully and ask yourself some questions. (If you don’t trust yourself to ask these questions, talk them through with someone who understands your situation.) Does the request meet your goals? Can you do the thing well in the time available? Are you the best person to do it, or does someone else make more sense? Once you’ve decided you are going to decline, reply immediately, giving the person time to find someone else who can handle the request.
• Help solve the problem. If possible, recommend someone else or help craft an alternate solution to the problem. You’ll not only help the person who asked you, but you might provide someone else with a project or job.
• Set up boundaries.  If you are available all the time, then you’ll probably get requests at times you can’t or don’t want to fulfil them. Consider signing off email at a certain time of day, taking time off from your computer on the weekend, or leaving the cell phone at home. Only you know what medium creates a problem for you.

 

for details refer to :http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/do-you-have-trouble-saying-no-506731/